So this is where I get a little vulnerable. Many of you have emailed me, asking where I’ve been the last few days. Personal emails are the first ones I open when I check my inbox. They’re my absolute favorite. You don’t know how much those emails mean to me, particularly those who’ve asked how I’ve been doing or where I’ve been. I’ve had a rough couple of weeks. If you follow my blog, then you know I’ve been rather sick with this pregnancy. Combine that with hormones, fatigue, and the inability at times to keep up with my energetic child, the dishes, the never-ending laundry and a husband who works long hours (which equals no break for me), and I’m just a little bit overwhelmed. Oh…and did I mention I still have to WORK?
Today, I just broke down…I’m actually still teary… I feel guilty for being impatient with my husband and my son. I feel inadequate for not being able to do everything I normally do. And I’m so sick and tired of feeling sick and tired. I’m not one to rant or complain. In fact, I’m mostly a cheerful, upbeat person. But these last few weeks have definitely been trying. With baby number 1, you can sleep when you need a nap. You can sit down when you need a rest break. You can eat when you’re hungry. But being pregnant with number 2 means you have to put your first child ahead of those needs. And while I wouldn’t have it any other way, sometimes it gets just a little bit overwhelming.
Moms of 2 or more….how did you do it? How did you survive pregnancy without totally going bonkers? I’d LOVE any tips or advice…
And I promise to try not to be such a downer…Hey…I’m almost done with the first trimester. Don’t they say the second is the best?
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I know exactly how you feel, well not exactly because my first is a lttle older. My daughter was 4 when I became pregnant with my son who is now 11 months. My pregnancy with #2 started out very rough, in fact I was told I would probably lose the pregnancy, was put on bed rest and had to take medication that made me very sick. All I could do was practically lay there. But when things got better I still had a hard time adjusting, the whole time feeling so inadequate, thinking people do this all the time -most I know have several children how could I be feeling this way. I was very fortunate to have family nearby to help.
It was also a hard for me to adjust being a family of four (thank you God for family, modern medicine and Zoloft:)
One thing I always kept in perspective is that “This too shall pass”. I know it sounds trite but it’s true.
I’m sorry I don’t have any awesome words of wisdom, but know that you are not alone and your feeling are completely normal 🙂
And remember this blog and the dishes can wait, your well-being and your family are the most important.
HUGS, HUGS, HUGS!!!!
Sounds like you are doing the best you can which is all anyone can do. I hope things get better soon!!!
I hope you feel better. It can be very hard to be pregnant and chasing a little one around. It’s even harder when hubby isn’t there to relieve you at night (earlier anyways). Set a naptime and bedtime for the little guy. When he is down, you have to “make” yourself lie down and take a break. Hang in there – you’ll get through this 🙂
I wish I could remember how I did it…. I had NO help from my (now ex-)husband, but I did have a wonderful friend who helped with lots of stuff. And I let stuff GO!!! Us paper plates, buy new underware instead of washing laudry if you have to (and can afford to). Play with your son when you feel down, there is NOTHING in this world that can make you feel better than a childs laughter, it will make you smile, you can’t help it. And most definately, ask your friends for help, with food, shopping, babysitting so you can get out of the house to read in the park if that is what you need to do – they are your best allies.
Most definately VENT to us — we will listen and NOT judge, we’ve been there and we don’t care. It will get better!
I did go crazy! But, I had it easier than you. My other son was 10 when I was pregnant, so I didn’t have to try to keep up with him. And now I have him to entertain his little brother. I understand how you feel though. I had a more emotional time my second pregnancy. I’m hoping you’ll feel better soon!
Caryn, I totally empathize with you! Being pregnant with #2 is much harder than with #1. It’s much more exhausting, isn’t it? I actually think everything got much *easier* after the baby arrived…
Hang in there! The sun will come out tomorrow! I’m sure you’re still a great mama, even during this difficult time.
Thinking of you,
Stephanie